Have you ever wanted to achieve a goal so much you couldn’t sleep? Most people want to achieve their goals but they undermine the importance of self-confidence.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines self-confidence as confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities. Confidence is defined as a quality or state of being certain.You need to be certain about your abilities, qualities and judgement. If you are uncertain, it’s difficult to convince anyone to be certain about you. Let’s see how,I have been through tough conditions just because lack of confidence and believe me,I started growing it daily in my life whether from doing task which I am least good and interested to the thing which, I am good but done it in a right way. From our childhood we saw many students who have a fear of speaking infront of class to our present many are their who are not capable of putting their points infront of public or may be infront of their office,it’s just a question on thier confidence!
Here I have given few points which in my point of view will definitely help you to overcome your lack of confidence to your self confidence.
How to develop confidence
Get Things Done
Confidence is built on accomplishment. If you achieve small and big goals, you’re going to feel much better about yourself. It begins with your day-to-day goals, what do you need to accomplish today, and every day this week or three days this week to help meet your goal? If you accomplish the goals you set for every day, chances are you will begin meeting weekly and monthly goals, which brings you in range of your bi-annual and annual goals. Keep in mind that progress is incremental, and big changes do not happen overnight. You’re going to feel like you can take a big project, and set an ambitious goal because you believe you can meet it. Set a goal for yourself, and go for it.
The best way to reach your goals, big or small, is break them into smaller goals and to monitor your progress. Whether you’re trying to get promoted, get a better job, get into graduate school, change careers, eat healthier or lose 10 pounds, the best way to know if you’re making progress is to monitor it. Try to quantify your accomplishments: the number of applications you’re submitting to jobs or graduate schools, what you’re eating and how much you’re exercising, write down whatever your goal may be. It will help you stay on course, and you will build confidence as you see the progress you’re making in real time.
Do the right thing
Most confident people live by a value system and make their decisions based on that value system, even when it’s hard and not necessarily in their best interest, but in the interest of the greater good. Your actions and your decisions define your character. Ask yourself what the best version of yourself that you aspire to be would do, and do it. Even when it’s really hard and it’s the last thing you want to do and it means a short-term sacrifice on your part, in the long run you’re going to like yourself more and be prouder of who you are.
Besides benefitting your health in general, exercising helps memory retention, improves focus, helps manage stress and prevents depression. It’s harder to be anxious when there is no excess energy to draw upon, and outside of being difficult uncomfortable at times, exercise improves every aspect of your life. So stay active, and create time to take of yourself.
Failing isn’t your enemy, it’s fearing failure that truly cripples you. If you set big goals and have big dreams, you’re going to feel overwhelmed, and you’re inevitably going to feel like you can’t do it. In those moments you have to look inside yourself, and gather every ounce of courage you have and just keep going. Every single wildly successful person has been afraid, and they’ve kept working and taking risks anyway, because what they are trying to accomplish is more important and urgent than their fear they will fail. Think about how much you want to achieve your goal, then put your fear to the side, and keep going, one day at a time.
Stand up for yourself
Always stand up for yourself never think that in professional level not your any collegue friend will stand for you if you get any problems or confusion don’t ask from anybody,direct go for your mentor or the leader who is leading you because you never know who have the ‘that’ intentions.
People respect people when they say they’re going to do something and they do it. More importantly, you will respect yourself if you say you’re going to do something and you do it, and belief in yourself will come easier, because you know you are not afraid of the work. Action gives your words meaning, and it will help you pave a path to accomplishing your goals, strengthening your relationships and feeling proud of who you are.
Don’t think for the people
There are going to be so many people who will tell you you can not accomplish your goal. Whether is it rejection from employers, schools, or just negative feedback from friends or family, people will try to tell you your goal is too big, or that you’re not ready, or that you can’t do it, that it’s never been done before, etc., and you absolutely can not listen to them. You must be resolute. While they tell you the odds are against you, etc., just remember most people are wrong about most things. People change the world every day, despite everyone around them telling them it can’t be done. If you think you can do it, you can it. Don’t listen to them, believe in yourself and keep going.
Do what makes you happy
What do you love to do in your spare time? Is it to get outside, hike, kayak and enjoy the outdoors? Or do you live for lying on your couch and watching all the excellent television that’s available? Whatever it is you love, create space for it, because life is short- you need time to enrich your life and to recharge to be your best self.
Confidence is not just to stamd out of the public or showing oneself to be out of box it’s the inner strength which can lead to success and giving a belief in urslef. Confidence is not a winning certificate from which you can show down to other people it’s the power which encourages you to feel strong enough to make your own decisions and being dependent on yourself and also give opportunities for asking help from you. Confidence cannot lean towards extra activities but also strengthen your thinking abilities to your different working ideas and even your physical therapy.
So always have a truthful and positive confidence in yourself because no-one gonna teach you the way you can teach yourself, and you have to fight for your life and time and from their it arises.